Mental masturbation can be defined as “any pleasurable or stimulating but unproductive mental activity that is usually used as an excuse to avoid taking constructive action”.

I first came across this term a few months ago and it really hit me how so many of us are doing it unconsciously. In my opinion, there are two main reasons why we mentally masturbate:

  • The first category includes people that have drifted away from their dreams and sense of purpose and thus their job or daily activities don’t provide them with enough internal stimuli in the form of happiness/positive emotions. As a result, in their spare time they search for external stimuli to make them feel good – which results in mental masturbation. For example: John wanted to be a businessman, however he had to settle to be an accountant and is now stuck in a 9-5 job that he hates. Everyday, he wakes up and goes to work and comes back home unhappy and discontent. This is when he will search for external stimuli to make him feel good about himself.
  • The other category comprises of people that are aware of what their dreams but have something holding them back (usually fear). Therefore, as a way to not having to face the fact that they are only fantasising and not actually doing anything that brings them further to that dream, they mentally masturbate. They will use their time to watch successful people, read about what they do, fantasise about how they could one day be successful, etc. – without ever taking action. They are still experiencing the feelings they’d get if they were successful but they aren’t any closer to their dreams.

This is an overly simple description of what mental masturbation is and sadly, that’s the lifestyle of most people nowadays. Every minute of spare time is dedicated to nonessential and trivial stuff to keep their brains busy without actually doing anything that will bring them closer to their dreams. That’s why so many are addicted to TV shows, gaming or social media – it keeps them entertained and busy; they are on survival mode. (This is a great article that explains how social media is consuming all of our time) And as a result, before they know it, they are old and tired; wondering where all their time went.

So, for those of you that are willing to improve their lifestyle, i highly encourage you to read this article about 8 things to do when you wake up. It’s also time to rethink your whole approach to a day and ask yourself these important questions:

  • Am i making the best use of my time everyday?
  • Am i being proactive or am i keeping myself busy?
  • Am i working towards my dreams?
  • Or am i just existing and coping until i die?

Time is our biggest asset, for once gone it cannot be regained. So, start making the best use of your time.

STOP LIVING THE LIFE OF OTHERS AND GO LIVE YOUR OWN.

“The way we spend our time defines who we are” – Jonathan Estrin

“Either you run the day or the day runs you” – Jim Rohn

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3 thoughts on “#3 – Quit masturbating

  1. Great post on execution!
    Society is fucked up at the moment. Presently people value:
    1. Money
    2. Fame
    3. Family
    4. Time
    In this very order. Then, when they start getting old its too late to understand that time should have always been no 1.

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